The lack of forgiveness for some of you can be kind of a hidden sin. There may be at some point of your life someone may have done something wrong against you, hurt your feelings deeply and you have a bad impression, even a grudge towards that person. It could be hard to let go and sometimes it can take time to recover these emotional scars.
Unforgiveness is like a cancer cell in a person’s body. You may already know cancer cells are deadly and can destroy a person’s life completely. Unforgiveness and bitterness hold hand in hand. It is like the cancer cell keeps spreading, growing every time when you think about how that person wronged against you, it is an unending cycle…the more you repeat that thought, the more bitterness grows in you, the harder it is to get rid of that feeling.
Persistency in bitterness and resentment can produce hatred. In 1 John 3:15 says, “Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.” A person does not have to kill another in action to be a murderer. Their thoughts can also sin through the feeling of hatred. Just like committing adultery, looking at someone with lust already a commitment of adultery, a sin against GOD. In Galatians 5:21 says, “Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.”
In Mark 11:26 says, “But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.” Wow…how fearful is that? Seriously, we MUST forgive others in order to be forgiven by GOD of our sins. Without the forgiveness of our sins means that we are heading towards the pathway to eternal damnation. Truly, ponder about this… In Romans 6:23 says, “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” In Colossians 3:1 says a similar verse, “Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
In Matthew 18:21-22, “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” We have to keep forgiving to others who wronged us. The Lord is always quick to forgive us when we truly repent, confess of our sins before HIM. Regarding the confession of our sins, in 1 John 1:9 says – “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
“So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” (John 8:7) Do you sin? Here in the bible says: “As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one:” (Romans 3:10) Do I sin? Yes… You see, there is none righteous. Why then, when someone sin against you, you want to cast a stone at him, if that is the case for you? Is that not hypocritical? Just because someone is sinning, it doesn’t mean you have to hate them. There is only one thing we need to hate them and that is “sin”. GOD loves the sinner, but HE hates the sins of the sinner. For us, we are to love the sinner as well but that doesn’t mean you also love his sins, no. We should hate the sins of that sinner, but still have love upon them.
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
“The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.” Proverbs 8:13
It is actually ridiculous not to forgive. Let’s look at the parable of the two debtors, in Matthew 18:23-35:
23 Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. 24 And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. 25 But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26 The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. 27 Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. 28 But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. 29 And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. 30 And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. 31 So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. 32 Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: 33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? 34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. 35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.
That person got forgiven of his debts that worth ten thousand talents but he does not forgive the person who borrowed him for a hundred pence. What a big difference! How foolish is that person?
Do you know how much is ten thousand (10,000) talents? In the first century, ten thousand talents would have been an unimaginably large sum. 10,000 talents is around 150,000 years’ wages. 1 talent is around 15 years’ wages. How many years normally would a person on earth survive their life? Of course, it wouldn’t last for 150,000 years!
So, what about a hundred pence? It could be around a day’s wages.
From this parable, we can realize that all our transgressions that we have done cannot be paid no matter what we do. But Jesus Christ is the only way, the truth and the life who forgives our transgressions. It is ONLY through HIM, through the blood of Jesus, the power of the cross we are saved and all our sins are forgiven!
We need to forgive all. Just as everyone needs mercy and compassion. Remember we are to love one another, the description of love in the bible saying “it is not irritable or resentful…love bears all things…endures all things.” Love is not resentful and bears, endures ALL things! How great is love! “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:13
In Romans 12:19 says, “Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.” When someone does something wrong to you, give it to the Lord, give/surrender (we are to surrender all to the Lord) HIM all your burdens and let HIM deal with it. The Lord is the God of justice and righteousness, let alone God judge the wicked. When you give all your burdens to the Lord you would feel much lighter in weight with all those pain and troubles gone away, like a baggage of excess put off from your own weight. How good is that feeling? Let go and let GOD!
Thinking about taking a revenge on someone who did wrong to you? Maybe your close friend have made a gossip about your secret affairs with someone in which you told her to keep it a secret, yet she spread it all to the public that shamed you…and you wanted not just to break up with her in this friendship but also planning to do something back to her that you think she deserves. But here in 1 Peter 3:9 says, “Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.” We should not repay evil for evil, but use love in all situations, even to our enemies as said in the bible, Matthew 5:44. Love is a weapon against evil. It is an abomination to GOD that a person with “A heart that devises wicked plans” as said in Proverbs 6:18. We should love everyone.
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31-32 “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” James 1:19-20
When you are trying to forgive someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are to completely forget the incident for we as humans under limitation, in normal circumstances forgetting an incident at wish would be out of our control, beyond our power in another word. To forgive means to release from blaming on others and seeking revenge, leaving all the worries by trusting that GOD would take control of this matter (know well that those people who had done injustice against you will be judged if they did not repent in time) and moving on. Let go of that resentment by pardoning the hurt that has come against you, it could be hard but remember this:
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Philippians 4:13
Forgiving someone is to set love upon that person, where love means to treat him kindly just like before the incident happened, as though nothing has happened. Not counting against that person anymore. Just like GOD forgives your sins of hurting others for example. Surrender your burdens to the LORD completely! Surely there would be a peace of mind. There is a wonderful song by Helena McNeill called “Letting You Go”. It is worthwhile to listen to and purchase this song HERE.
In Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Just let go of these burdens! How are you going to look forward towards that narrow path when you keep looking back? Remember Lot’s wife? She looked back and became a pillar of salt. Genesis 19:26. Don’t be like the Lot’s wife! Keep looking forward focusing to stay in the will of GOD to finish the race for the eternal reward!
In Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.”
- King James Version Bible
- Abrahan Granillo. (2014). Love . [Online Video]. 16 January. Available from: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mweGwM5fH20. [Accessed: 17 April 2014].